F is For Failed

As I was going through my posts, I had to laugh my last post was for the letter F. For me the letter F turned out to be for failed marriage shortly after the post. But, that doesn't mean we can not continue on and have healthy relationships in the future.

We live in a culture that focuses on romanticizing relationships and we set unrealistic goals and expectations in relationships. We live in a society where the divorce rate is over 50%. The stereotypical couple is no longer the norm. Many couples are in their 2nd or marriages and there are stepchildren involved. 

Not only are many couples faced with learning to live with one another, they are learning co-parenting and dealing with the ex's. Marriage has become very complex and requires a lot of work. You will have the fun days and the days that you just feel like you have failed.  

Just remember, never say anything you do not mean. Words can not be taken back once they have been said. Your partner may forgive you, but they will not forget what was said. 

F is for Fun

F is for fun. Never forget to have fun with your partner. As couples we tend to get caught up with everyday life, work, the house and the kids and forget to set aside some time alone to enjoy one another and you begin to lose touch with one another. 

Try and set aside time at least once a week to spend time with one another alone. It's important to keep working on your relationship. Just because you get married, it doesn't mean you are done with trying to keep one another happy. 

E is for Empathize

Empathize with you partner, put yourself in your partner's shoes and think about how you would react in the same situation. As the old saying goes "Never judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes" rings true to life. It is easy to pass judgement on another person when you have never been put in the same situation yourself. You have to think, "Would I do the same thing, if I was in the same situation?"

Enough said, I think you can figure out empathy from here.